Narcissist are addicts! They are addicted to narcissistic supply, to be sure. But what else? As a result of their addictive nature, there are usually other addictions, alcohol, drugs, shopping, and reckless behavior including driving. This is known in physiological jargon as “comorbidity”; the presence of one or more additional disorders (or diseases) co-occurring with primary disease or disorder. It is amazing the level of justification the narcissist employs. Narcissist are quick to say, “Everyone drinks. Everyone gets high, I am a wine collector… I am successful, I am entitled to buy things. I can text and drive! ” For me, the awareness came slowly as the drinking patterns he showed initially, escalated over time. I say showed me, because I believe he hid his drinking. He knew I would not support the heavy drinking. So by the time that good glass of wine turned into a bottle, and proceeded by or followed by two to four scotches EVERY night, I was neck deep in the narcissistic space. He was so confident, and successful that he did not present like a common drunk…yet underneath the expensive suit, lived one Mr. Alcoholic-Narcissist. Is your current or previous partner who you believe to be a narcissist an alcoholic, drug-addict, compulsive shopper, or a workaholic?
What if any were the secondary addictions? Did he-she initially hide this behavior? Did you enable or turn a blind eye to his-her bad behaviors?