Day 37 Two Steps Forward and One Step Back…what you now know put into action!

Day 37

Some things you just can’t say enough. It has been 37 days of no-contact.  It is beyond my scope of reason why my childhood narcissist “take 2”, still rents far too much of my cerebral space. Why is letting go so agonizing?  I know the reality of life with my ex cerebral, alcoholic, albeit successful narcissist, was overall punitive, lonely, and frustrating.   I know all the nice things he did for me, were a kind of window dressing.  He used these “niceties”, as a smoke screen, secretly hunting other woman, while playing the role of the misunderstood victim.  I know the relationships he cultivated with others were shallow and short lived.  The relationships that lasted were fraught with consternation, and dissatisfaction.  I saw his children react to him with a mix of fear, disrespect, confusion, and contempt. I witnessed his insane vicious attacks on people that work for him. I know the satisfaction he derived by raging on those in lesser positions.  I saw his misery. I understood his self-loathing, I felt his hatred. I have seen his haughty resolve.  If I were to make a list of all the characteristics I DO NOT want as a partner, he would be that guy!  And still, I obsess.  There comes a point where all the understanding in the world means nothing without a strong commitment to stop obsessing! It is time to move him out of the spotlight of my own mental center stage and begin anew.  Today, I re-commit to no-contact and limit my obsessing on what might have been.

Your Assignment

Thank yourself for the time and distance you have maintained from your narcissist. Forgive yourself for the time you have spent obsessing about him. Limit your obsessive thinking about what might have been.  Spend the majority of time (at least today) thinking about “what is” not “what was”! Find joy in the moment. Count your blessings. Stop giving him so much of your precious life!


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